I was recently at an event and found myself surrounded with guys and gals who would be described as successful professionals and yet as I talked to them, it was quite clear to me that many of them were just doing a job. On the other hand, there was Bob who was clearly passionate about what he did and somehow he seemed to glow. When Bob talked, he’s eyes lit up and there was an energy about him that felt contagious, I found myself wanting to talk with him all evening
Finding your passion is one of those things that coaches like to talk about but Why is it so important to find your passion?
There is a misconception that feeling passionate about something needs to feel “hot and heavy” and be present in every second of your life. I think a better way to experience it is to feel “like a quiet inner light…an opening in the chest or a soft flutter in the belly… it feels like a YES”
Your passion doesn’t need to be your job and in fact I would go as far as to say that our passions should never feel like a job!!! Whether you earn your living from your passion or not, having a passion is what makes the difference between living life and loving the life you live.
Howard Thurman said “Don’t worry about what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and do that, because what the world needs is people who have come alive”.
Let me share my story with you. 5 or so years ago I had a secure job, a good income, great colleagues, a nice house and a fantastic relationship and yet something was missing. I wanted a new job but I had no idea what that job should be. I felt stuck. As the months turned to year I realised that I was sinking deeper and deeper in my own personal quick sand. I saw my life leaving me with only regrets and what ifs.
There was no way I was going to carry on down this path….it was time to wake-up and take charge.
Don’t get me wrong, I didn’t one day decide I needed to take charge and wake up the next morning knowing exactly what I wanted to do. It was a long slog, I started to pay attention to the conversations I was having; how I was spending my spare time; how I was interacting with people and for me the biggest revelation was that there was very little that excited me. Then, interestingly, I started to spot little things that did light me up, I looked again at the conversations I was having, I looked at the work that I had done, the holidays I had had, the challenges I had faced….all these things pointed me to my passion.
My passion is to help others. The problem is that I had taken it so seriously at one point in my life that I had become a fixer and being a fixer had drained me dry….but more about that in another post. Having rediscovered by passion, I decided to take my natural ability to help others and turn it into something that nurtured me while at the same time helping others by teaching them how to help themselves.
That feeling of waking up and realising that your life has no purpose or direction is an awful one but discovering your passion can turn that around. It’s like turning on the Sat-Nav and realising that your destination has been pre-programmed. It doesn’t mean there are no obstacles in the road, it doesn’t mean you won’t need to take some detours but I can assure you that by finding your passion, you will reach your destination!!!
You may already a have tried to find you passion, maybe you’ve done career assessment tests, personality profiling and all kinds of other tests and nothing has revealed itself to you. The one place you may not have looked closely enough is within. Assessments and profiling are great tools and can certainly guide you in a direction but of course the results generated are typically standardised. You are unique and your specific passion is unique to you. Yes it may be similar to someone else’s and Yes an assessment or profile may point you in the right direction but I believe the key is getting to know yourself and understand your uniqueness.
If you have read this far, I believe that you are ready to start uncovering your passion. Start paying attention to the conversations you are having; how you spend your spare time; how you interacting with people. Having someone to discuss what you learn about yourself can be very helpful, if you don’t have someone you would be willing to do this with, get yourself a coach. A good coach will help you see through the “data” and may give you specific exercises to help you discover yourself passion quickly.
I would love to hear your thoughts and follow your progress so please comment below or drop me a note on email@example.com